I’ve been online dating for a while now and I seem to be attracting the wrong women. They don’t seem to want a relationship, they only seem interested in getting hot and bothered and phone sex. It’s becoming a waste of time that goes nowhere. How do I attract the woman of my dreams?
I’m willing to bet there’s something in your profile that is scaring off the good ones and attracting the more aggressive out for thrills type. For instance, you’re an extremely good looking guy and you write “I’m a thrill seeker, I’m always looking for life’s next adventure. I like a woman who’s sexy, spontaneous, passionate and not afraid to make the first move.” The sure bet is, you’re more likely to attract the kitten at the height of her sexual prime rather than the girl next door you can take home to mom. The one you want is probably thinking “Whew! He’d probably think I’m boring.”
My best advice is to get clear about exactly the kind of woman and relationship you want. List the top 25 qualities you “must have” in your ideal partner and also a list of “can’t have” and “deal breakers”. Then re-write your profile specifically for her. Remember you’re speaking to her with the words you write, you want her to screech “That’s me! That’s what I want too.” and feel confident responding to you.