How long after a breakup should you wait before you start dating again?
I’d say about one hour. Yes, why not go out there an hour after breaking up — crying, tears running down your face, insecure and full of emotion — and start dating again.
Of course an hour is too soon. Honestly, though, the answer is that it’s a different time period for everyone.
It depends how long it took for you to break up. It depends on who did the breaking up. Most importantly, it depends on how long you need.
You need as long as it’s going to take for you to process everything. You need to get all the anger out, process what went wrong in the relationship, what you need to learn from the relationship, and what type of person you want going forward.
When you go through a break up with somebody, regardless of whether you’re the person being broken up with or whether you do the breaking up, you need to take time to process everything that went on before you move forward and even think about dating again.
I think it’s really important during that processing time to do things for yourself, to spend time with yourself, and to spend time with your friends. Doing these things is important because when you do start dating again, you need to be 100% open to what comes into your life.
If you’re still wounded, you’re just going to find another person who is equally as wounded. That’s not what you want. You want to really be the most positive, amazing version of yourself so that you can attract an equally positive and amazing person.
So take your time after a breakup. Take as much time as you need, however long that might be, before you start dating again.
This post was previously published on davidwygant.com and is republished here with permission from the author.
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