You asked Coach Allana Pratt: “Should I feel guilty that I feel resentful, frustrated, and down right bitter because I am the one that ALWAYS has to make the first move, ALWAYS has to approach, and do the asking out? Am I the only man that doesn’t enjoy this? Why are men lead to believe that we should enjoy and embrace this role in dating?

A: Your feelings are completely valid and I am honor the truthfulness of your question. Vulnerability and openness is incredibly sexy – bitter, resentful, frustrated – not so much. The first step is healing the resentfulness as this is going to act as a magnet, causing you to attract women that only validate this feeling.

To see my full response, check out the full article and video on Meetmindful, right HERE. You can also find this video and many other on YouTube, so please be sure to subscribe to my Youtube Channel!

Also, If you have a burning question about love, dating or life in general for me, comment below, or ask me on Twitter @AllanaPratt and just use #AllanaQandA.

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