Occasionally, the man in your life will want something that he doesn’t articulate or share. And it’s either because he doesn’t know how to ask for the thing or is too embarrassed to ask for it. Either way, when that goes unsaid, you have no idea what he may desire in the relationship.
So today, I’m going to share with you 7 things that men want but don’t ask for in a relationship
He wants you to be happy
Now how does a guy ask for this? “Be happy, please?”… “Be happy damn it!”… No… Pretty awkward and very ineffective, right? You see, your happiness is a reflection of his effectiveness as a man in the relationship. After interviewing hundreds of couples who have been married for over 40 years, often the man would say, “Hey, look… If mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy.”
If you’re not happy, don’t be surprised if your man starts to get restless. Your happiness is tied to his sense of worth as a man. So either he is going to try and fix whatever is making you unhappy or he’s going to avoid it until you become happy. Your happiness is key to his happiness.
He wants you to take interest in his interests
Men love it when you become passionate about the things they love. Whether it’s his favorite sports game or a hobby he’s obsessed about, he wants you to be just as excited about it as he is. When you start to how interest in the things he’s passionate about, it builds a stronger bond in your relationship.
But men will rarely ever ask you for this. So putting in a little extra effort to understand what really gets his jigs ringing will go a long way in strengthening your relationship. Because here’s the deal – when you connect with something he loves, the love that he has for that thing now connects to you
He wants you to initiate sex
Go ahead and be bold. Surprise him… Come out of the bathroom in that sub-sexy lingerie you haven’t put on in a while and get his gore all stirred up. Occasionally, he wants you to be the one initiating the sex… unless, of course, you are the sex machine in the relationship in which case, give the man a breather!
Again, you need to constantly re-ignite the sexual attraction in the bedroom. Read Love Making Tips for Couples – The Art of Touching and Romance
He wants to be praised and acknowledged
Again, no man will ask for this – yet, it’s what we crave the most. Those little compliments and praises remind us that we are doing a good job which serves for a good self-esteem boost.
Usually, it doesn’t even have to be a big thing he did. Just kiss him on the cheek when he comes home and say, “Hey babe, thanks for bringing the food home today. I really appreciate that…” And you will see him literally feel better about himself. As Mathew Boggs put it, “A man’s sense of self expands under the light of praise.”
He wants you to encourage him to adventure.
Now as men, we are often conditioned to believe that women want way more time together than we want. And you and I both know that that’s not true. You want your independence just as much as he does. Everybody needs their own time alone perhaps to reflect on their current state of mind.
But men are usually scared to ask for their time alone because they are conditioned to believe that that may be misinterpreted to mean “I’m tired of being around you.” So when you actually encourage him to take his time alone and go out for an adventure, he is going to appreciate that. Imparting that kind of freedom on your man creates a desire to invest more time in you.
He wants your confidence in him.
For most men, this is usually very difficult to ask for, but it’s obvious when he doesn’t get it. But it’s also very easy to show your confidence in him. Here’s how it works…
Confidence in your man is as simple as giving him a task and then letting him complete it for you. But often what will happen is… You’ll probably say, “Hey, would you take me on a date?.. Would you drive me to this restaurant?..” And then when he’s driving you there, you’re telling him the best way to go and instructing him on where to park etc.
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But here’s the thing… Men hate it when you micromanage the situation. When you give him a task to complete, but keep giving him instructions on how to complete it, he feels underestimated. But sitting back and allowing him to serve you shows that you have faith in his ability as a man.
He wants you to respect him
Respect is the number one rule to keeping your relationship intact. And yet, respect can be, sometimes, a little ambiguous – how do we know whether we are respecting each other?
But the truth is that respect usually shows up in the little things – how you listen to one another, how you show up on time when you agree to meet, how you honor your differences by understanding that you don’t always have to bear the same opinions on everything, and ultimately how you’re both courteous to one another.