Nervousness. We all have those days. Being a confident man and feeling good about yourself, as easy as it as sounds, is something we often put at the bidding of others, even though we all have what it takes to drive the train ourselves. For some, the “fake it till you make it” trick works at their timely convenience, like during a job interview, or a social gathering. But you can’t live a lie your whole life.
Confidence, as a man, is something you will need for more than just landing you that job or making a toast at your brother’s wedding. You may need to step up in moments of crisis or talk to women. Everything you do as a man requires a conviction. Sadly, most men confuse confidence with boyish cockiness, and it’s easy to be branded a douche.
The steps below will guide you on how to improve your self-esteem using body language and social interaction to realize a confidence prestige and ultimately become an alpha man.
The first step to becoming a confident man is looking the part. How you look dictates how you feel about yourself in public. Being mindful of your personal hygiene is the best place to start. Practice proper grooming and dressing; Take a shower, brush your teeth, keep your hair neat. Sounds primitive, but these are the simple things that draw people to you. Again, proper grooming does not necessarily mean dressing fancy. A rule of thumb is to gear up in something that wouldn’t make you feel embarrassed if you ran into your ex on the street. Remember to dress for confidence. You will only be confident if you are comfortable in what you wear.
What comes to your mind when you sit next to a guy pretending to play games on his phone, with his headsets on full blast, at the subway? Do you go ahead and talk to him? Probably not. To be a confident man, you need to exercise an approachable body language. Maintain eye contact when you talk to others and re-assure you’re listening by keeping your smile in easy reach. When you walk, perfect your posture. Keep your shoulders laid back and your face pointed straight. Whatever you do, make sure your body language makes you look poised and your gestures are powerful.
Having an athletic body projects manly confidence. The best part is that you don’t even have to keep a strict gym humdrum. A simple Charles Atlas routine will do the trick. All it takes is just 15 minutes of your day and before you know it, your body will be in fine fettle. Working out increases your blood flow, reduces stress and keeps your hormones active. This will go a long way to boosting your confidence as a man, and people around you can feel it.
Practice good social skills
Social interaction is part of everyone’s day. Understanding the dos and don’ts of mingling with people makes the difference between a confident man and timid chap. For starters, practice a firm handshake. This instantly demonstrates assertiveness to the people around you. When you speak, speak with authority. Be gentle in your voice, however, and clear in your words. Don’t just schmooze through the conversation like it’s a marathon. If you have the flimsy habit of apologizing all the time, the cycle stops now. Be modest enough to admit when you’re wrong, but confident enough to embrace your mistakes like a man. Above all, use mindfulness and show gratitude. All these shared skills will have a positive impact on your sense of worth and ultimately your confidence.
A confident man takes charge, not only in his appearance but also in his thoughts. To think confidently, you need to recognize your strongholds and leverage them to realize superiority in your intellect. So grab a piece of paper and jot down your fortes; talents, accomplishments, leads… Just anything that makes you feel good about yourself. If you find it hard to come up with a list, then it’s time to change your mental tape. At this point, you can try thinking back some of the things people have complimented on you in the past. It could be your smile, your good heart or your good sense of humor; there is definitely something exceptional about you. All you have to do is discover and build on it, and this will be the beginning of your flight to confidence-Ville.
Learn new skills every day
Life is a constant lesson every confident man is willing to learn from. No matter how good you think you are, there is always something you suck at. Learning new stuff will open your life to new experiences and make you more confident when dealing with all the crap life decides to throw at you. Sign up for that cooking class, go to the library and learn how to change a baby’s diaper, teach yourself karate; learn learn learn. The prospects are endless.